Labor day was a very boring day for me. No phone calls, emails, or text messages. Social media like Facebook were very quiet.
That’s when it dawned on me. I know lots of people, but not many are friends. Facebook and other social outlets have probably added to this. I’ve met a lot of people through others that I know, networking, etc.
When it comes down to it I have a lot of people I chat with. I don’t have many that I can count on to have my back.
I guess with the unexpected drama I went through last week it has really got me thinking about the various forms of relationships I have in my life. My emotions are settling down and I’m accepting that what I thought was a good friendship really wasn’t if someone would throw it away over senseless bullshit. I’m seeing deficiencies where what I need I’m not getting. Recently I had been involved in an augmented reality game where I was meeting a lot of people throughout the area. Now that my interest in this activity is waning, I’m finding that my interactions with the majority of the people had dropped off as well.
So the small group of folks that I consider my best friends are folks that I have several things in common not just one item. People that I find multiple things in common are probably one I should spend more time getting to know better and spend less energy on those who probably won’t develop into anything further.
I’ve wasted too much time trying to be everything to everyone in my life. To hell with that. It’s worn me out and when I look in the mirror I forget who I am anymore. I just have to learn to be me and if someone in my life can’t deal with that then goodbye and good luck somewhere else.
Also means I have to get out of my comfort zone and start meeting new people to replace those people in my life that aren’t good for me. Sunday I met an online friend at Cafe Stella in Norfolk, VA. She had recently gotten a phone like mine and wanted to try out some of the new features. While there I met Jennifer and we had a good conversation for almost an hour after my other friend left. Shared Facebook connection now. Who knows. Might be something worth exploring further.